I have made another research and I think it's nice to share it with everyone here, here is what my opinion about this...
In life we will often encountered with different people,and by luck they become your friend or even your spouse. But sometimes breakups, relationship problems comes unexpectedly and you ended up hurting in your heart.
Sometimes, you may realized that you have been cheated, used or suddenly someone want to break up with you.....you will like, ended in turmoil. You feel like the whole world is useless and we will go through a process which is called "resentment".
So why resentment? Well, humans always have this, they think of the cause of the event and in the end may blame on themselves for those who is low self esteem.Is resentment good? My answer is NO!Resentment always hurts you more than it does the person you resent. While your offender has probably forgotten the offense and gone on with life, you continue to stew in your pain. But I want to ask here, why want to continue living in pain? Wouldn't it be time wasting? Well, remember this:
Those who have hurt you in the past cannot continue to hurt you unless you hold on to the pain through resentment. Your past is past! Nothing will change it.You are only hurting yourself with your bitterness. For your own sake, learn from it, and then let it go.
It may be hard to let it go....and you wanted to get a revenge or something like in need of a replacement...because you "so-called" cannot live without that person and in the end you found another one...as replacement...Revenge is not a good answer, as I said in FB, when you are planning on a revenge, dig two graves.... You may ended up hurting them! This is a common emotion humans have....let me put it in a sentence :"At first when you were together you made them take you for granted making you think that they cannot live without you because you poured so much efforts into this relationship ...but when they leave you, it is the vice versa....instead you will start to think you can't live without them."
It's sad to think....why the victim was you....but do think positively,the end is not here and don't let emotions conquer you! When that time comes, it's time for you to let it go. If u let it go and continue live happily, you may have prove to them that he/she who dumbs you last time is an asshole! We learn from mistakes,everyday....and we learn and grow from it, that's what makes us today.
And remember to appreciate the people around you who care for you and help you, you should be thankful to have friends caring for you when you are down. =)
Friendship can be cruel when you realized that you have been used....what I am about to share here is what I have been experiencing and understand what is like.... here is the result of my research...
In the 21th century, people has been going into liberation....where open minds are welcome into the society.....and humans bear two negative things.... which is materialism and realism...you may ask what is that, but I can answer you, it could be you or could be your friends beside you!
So...lets start from realism....I have been doing some research and here are a few meanings about this word:
Realism - the attribute of accepting the facts of life and favoring practicality and literal truth
Realism - reality: the state of being actual or real
Realism - (philosophy) the philosophical doctrine that physical objects continue to exist when not perceived.
So why do I apply it in friendship? Well sometimes you will meet people who appears to be very realistic, means when he/she needs something from you, in form of help or in need in guidelines, they will look for you and after that they won't find you because there is no reason to look for you, pretty realistic huh? Well, you can imagine you are a screwdriver being used to fix something, when no use, there is no reason to use a screwdriver. Right?
Nowadays people get more smarter, they manipulate your mind and in the end you cannot escape from them....a little kindness or a support from them is enough to make the trick. So they made you think that there is a reason to help them.
How about Materialism? Well, materialism comes from the word material, means things or stuffs but sometimes materialism and realism can be bounded together....people are now driven to their desire to acquire becomes their whole goal of their lives. This drive to always want more is based on the misconceptions that having more will make you more happy, more important, and more secure, but all three ideas are untrue!
Remember, Possessions only provide temporary happiness ....this can apply to in need of many friends, more money, more fame and knowledge...sometimes we forget what we have in life and we wanted more...and we neglected whats important....and people always ended in regret when everything is lost.
You may say when you have more, you become more important...well, that is not true at all....or a myth.....so think to yourself in these 4 simple questions,
What is more important to appreciate what you have now rather than loose it all when it is all gone?
Which is more important? Fame or Friends?
You may say you are always alone, are you? Think again...
Will your friends look for you when they are in need and when you needed them, are they beside you?
I hope these would help you to choose your friends and you know what are friends for. For all my friends, no matter what you are achieving now....don't being bounded by these two things in life....and appreciate what is around you now. Don't live with regrets=)
I am sending this today, means I am leaving to further my studies....but before leaving here, I would like to share this with everyone =)
Firstly, No matter what you are, where you are from, new or old, it doesn't matter. All of you have made such an Impact in my life, it doesn't matter how big is the impact....most importantly ...all of you guys had made my life more colorful and meaningful~ we may have fights, misunderstandings, problems or even bad times...but we are forever be friends =)
I have learnt, understand and grew together with you all, what I gained is not only the experience, knowledge or leadership, but the memories I had with you all and I believe thats the greatest gift I would ever wanted in life. I belive that Sometimes people come into your life and you know right away that they are meant to be there; they serve some sort of purpose, teach you a lesson, or help you figure out who you are, and I am proud to say that the person is you.
So here's the 3 wishes to to you all...It maybe a little awkward to type like this...but still, I type =P
For those who is getting married or engaged, I would like to congratulate both of you and I pray for your happiness =)
For those who are working, I wish you have a fruitful carrier, a wonderful future and I hope the experience gained from your work would benifit you and the society for the future to come.
For those who are still studying, I wish you all the best in your studies! Hope you can achieve flying colors! Make your parents proud and enjoy your studies while you can! Study smart! =)
so before I end this note I would like to thank everyone who is, and always at my side, supporting, helping, teaching and assisting me! THANK YOU!
Oh, I almost forgot, I would like to thank everyone who attended the party, some even came all over from a very far away distance and some have mid-terms and exams but still they attended. Really thanks for all the gifts, lovely photo capture, cakes and all of you have made me draw cartoon back again!
Once again, I would like to thank the people who prepared, organized, share their love and life, helped me throughout my so-called one month "Holiday" at KL. You have all made the difference in my life!So I may list up the names...for this semester~ hehe (Doesn't mean you name is not listed here means I forgot u oh! =P)
Leon (Awesome Setiawan Trip),Chih Ceng (Crazy awesomely fun Kuala terengganu Trip),YY, Hui Qi, Cherry, Jenny, Serene, Mei Yen, Narvin, Henry, Tan Chee Hao(Fantastic Kluang, Johor Trip), Gracia, Jeffery, Kenshiu, Hao Han a.k.a KFC , Cherrie, Mell, Jue Ann, John, Troy, Clare, Adel MG (Awesome mei!),Jun Lin, Amy, John, Kok Yuan, Victor, Edwin,Cindy, Leo Fung, Amanda, Steffz, Linda, Grace, Margenie, Jessie Lim, Bala, Joseph, Jee Hong, Jian Chiang, Huay Wen, Michelle Lim, Matthew, Nicole, Ray Ng, Michelle, Sheryl, Ong Tze Yen, Navid, Felicia, Lydia, Lea Ngar.... .... ... ... and all those awesome people who came into my life (>.<)
To those who are always supporting me, Jie Ee (My Lovely mei), Shu Wen (Hugs from you mei), yir Fang (Miss you oh!)and Wendy Goh (My Nice Jie) thank you very much =)
I will miss you all, and hope In the future we would meet someday, even If I really forget you all, but I will always remember the memories we had together!Do keep in touch! ^^
"Nothing makes the earth so spacious as to have friends at a distance"
Sorry for the late post...I had been busy lately...here's my another traveling ....and this time it is an awesome weekend with Leon and Chih Ceng to Setiawan, Perak! Weeee!!! So, the word "Setiawan" comes from the word "Setia Kawan" or friendship. Ok....skip that history....the best part is the trip itself! We sit on the bus and arrived at Marang bus station, and Leon's Mom picked us up~ our first stop? Yum yum yum!! Loved that food~
So the food at Setiawan was delicious! Ate lots of it! And the "kompiang"...awesome! At the 2nd day night, we watched IRON MAN 2 and it was nice haha~
I am very happy because I came to a place which touches my heart where the meaning of "Friendship" was being kept in this small Chinese town.
View the rest of the photo in the photo album HERE !! ^^
Thanks Leon and his family for this awesome trip!!
This is my very first post to actually sign a petition =) and this post is to remind UNESCO to save Lake Baikal. So what is Lake Baikal? Lake Baikal is a unique UNESCO world heritage site, and now.....the wonderful lake is under threat from the Russian Government, after permits have been given to open a toxic pulp and paper mill on its shore.
It's time for us to sign a Petition to the General Director of UNESCO Irina Bokova to step up and defend this unique world heritage!